The Thinking Other Woman

What you should know BEFORE your affair.


What's currently happening in my life and what I think about all this now.

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Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on April 9, 2023 at 12:05 AM

Crazy reading

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on April 8, 2023 at 2:05 PM

Me and him: Seven of Swords reversed

HIm and her: Seven of Swords.

Just because it was that time in terms of natal potential doesn't mean we have that potential now.


Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on April 3, 2023 at 7:50 PM

Now how did I forget to mention this?? (Because eclipses never seem to do much in my chart, that's how!)

Something tells me this will be different. Because two days prior to the events I write about in The Crucible ... there's a solar eclipse coming through, and it all takes place around that damn Saturn. Oh, and there's a lunar eclipse on May 5th.

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Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on April 2, 2023 at 4:50 PM

So my condo right now is a fucking mess. I had a major plumbing disaster which really started last summer. It wasn't fixed right then, so the problems dragged on for months, including an entire month of no electrical power to the kitchen, dining area, and laundry room ... which means I basically haven't had the use of a working kitchen for the better part of six months. I have so much shit to clean up.

The good thing was I got a new...

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A Last Letter to You on the Eve of The Crucible

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on April 1, 2023 at 10:45 PM

Years ago, long before I married Mark, I recall being curled up on the couch late one night, reading articles related to the master's degree I was pursuing in clinical psychology, and I found myself startled by what one respected psychologist had to say about long-term marriages: "Don't celebrate the union of two people who've been married for fifty years until you understand ...

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A Life of Meaning. What IS That, Anyway?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 30, 2023 at 3:00 PM

The thing about tarot readings is, whether you believe in them or not, they make you think. 

The one I just posted talks about my life being like scorched earth for a very long time. Boy, is THAT ever correct. It also talks about the idea that thinking some other person was supposed to come in and be everything that makes a fulfilling life ... maybe not being the best ...

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In a Reading I Just Did for Myself, I've Been Told to Ask for Blessings, So I Am.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 26, 2023 at 10:40 PM

Dear Angels, Metatron, Spirit Guides, Whoever Is Around Who Can Help: 

I've been told to ask for blessings, so I am.

We've got 44 days left, here. If it really is true that he's unhappy, that he misses me, that he wishes he'd left, that he's sorry he stayed, but...

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So, I've Been Through the Entire Cycle, and It's Time To Start Thinking About My Old Age

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 26, 2023 at 6:30 PM

It's safe to say this journey is over. 

This person's announced his intention never, ever to return. I've been through the whole thing ... the loss of a cherished dream, realizing where I was scared, selfish, and using someone, hoping for someone to change who couldn't change (at least it was only eight years this time instead of thirty-eight), growing through the loss of youth and taking on the mant...

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Where is Unconditional Love in the Extramarital Affair?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 24, 2023 at 12:00 AM

So, after eight years of internet lurking, the emotional affair I participated in for four months ages ago has finally drawn to a close.

(Actually, there's forty-six days left before this cycle is officially over and the rest of my life starts. In that time, Jupiter will have gone over, and that will be the end. But I already know how it ends. Someone who doesn't even com...

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Pulling out all the transit interpretations for the post that appears below this one ...

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 19, 2023 at 8:10 PM



Jupiter square itself: A tendency toward excess. Tests your understanding of the world in that if you have gotten overconfident, you could have financial (or other) problems.



Jupiter square Uranus: A sudden change in life direction or a sudden change in fortune. It coul...

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The Crucible Revisited

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 19, 2023 at 7:25 PM

I had posted this earlier, but I mixed natal things in the charts together with the transit that is about to come through: Jupiter hitting the apex of my yod and boomeranging his. I keep trying to pound and pound and pound into my soul that IT'S TIME TO GIVE UP. I know there's no hope here, and I'm about to receive incontrovertible proof. We all know twin flames just teach horrible, painful lessons and don't work out. Time to swallow that for goo...

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But I Never Really Left You ...

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 19, 2023 at 11:35 AM

I don't feel bad about reposting this from the comment section of another post from an adulterer I'm following. It's a public post already written for all to see, regarding posts he'd made in which he keeps bemoaning leaving his marriage for a relationship "that has no future":

With regard to those sta...

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An Onrushing, Oncoming, MEDIUM-sized Train Wreck

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 15, 2023 at 8:30 PM

I'm glad I stumbled onto Medium, not only as a way to make extra money, but as a way to learn. I've learned so much from other people who tell their real life stories about infidelity and heartbreak there. (Word to the wise: Number of people I've seen on there who started out as an affair and ended up happily married? TWO.)

Here lately a certain (Medium) famous couple is...

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Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 15, 2023 at 12:30 AM

***I put this up ON THE FOURTEENTH. Yet the website insists on putting the 15th as the date. WTF???

Venus is sitting on the apex of my yod today, to be followed by Jupiter at the end of April.

Do I expect anything?? Nahhhhh.

You Have to Take Your Married Man/Twin Flame/Broken Love Affair Together with Your Other Experiences to Get the Lesson

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 14, 2023 at 9:25 PM

Although astrology sort of hamstrung me in getting over this relationship (for, oh, EIGHT YEARS), I still value it for the perspective it helped me reach on not only this but the entirety of my life and why I've spent so very much of it unhappy.

To Explain ...

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Now He's Gone

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 5, 2023 at 11:00 PM

Well, the person this blog is about finally broke a record. He hasn't been absent here for more than two months in ... seven years? I think so.

But, now he's done it. Interesting that his last visit here that I can prove was December 30th. (I did get something weird on Valentine's Day, but who knows?)

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