The Thinking Other Woman

Dear Angels, Metatron, Spirit Guides, Whoever Is Around Who Can Help: 

I've been told to ask for blessings, so I am.

We've got 44 days left, here. If it really is true that he's unhappy, that he misses me, that he wishes he'd left, that he's sorry he stayed, but...

So, after eight years of internet lurking, the emotional affair I participated in for four months ages ago has finally drawn to a close.

(Actually, there's forty-six days left before this cycle is officially over and the rest of my life starts. In that time, Jupiter will have gone over, and that will be the end. But I already know how it ends. Someone who doesn't even com...

I don't feel bad about reposting this from the comment section of another post from an adulterer I'm following. It's a public post already written for all to see, regarding posts he'd made in which he keeps bemoaning leaving his marriage for a relationship "that has no future":

With regard to those sta...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zIUXuo0xd5k&list=PL3QK-FeOu2cdt-9d3Z4aIon3o0k-RNtAF&index=10" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zIUXuo0xd5k&list=PL3QK-FeOu2cdt-9d3Z4aIon3o0k-RNtAF&index=10

"Then said Almitra, speak to us of love. And he raised his head and looked upon the people, and there fell a stillness upon them. And with a great voice he said, When love beckons to you, follow him. Though his ways are hard and steep. And when his wings enfold you yield to him, Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. And when he speaks to you, believe him, Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north win...

People often ask whether an affair relationship is really real.

They cite the fact that the relationship is a secret, that there is no shared home or family, that no one else knows about it, that the relationship will likely end.

That there's this singular whirlwind when you're together, such that when you're apart, you ...

https://medium.com/@nickwignall/4-psychological-reasons-why-you-have-low-self-worth-e03a44305076" target="_blank">https://medium.com/@nickwignall/4-psychological-reasons-why-you-have-low-self-worth-e03a44305076

https://medium.com/adam-rebecca-murauskas/how-people-turn-their-childhood-trauma-into-wildly-successful-lucrative-careers-33f7aba232d0" target="_blank">https://medium.com/adam-rebecca-murauskas/how-people-turn-their-childhood-trauma-into-wildly-successful-lucrative-careers-33f7aba232d0

https://medium.com/illumination/5-traits-of-dysfunctional-parents-d1e1bff5b364" target="_blank">https://medium.com/illumination/5-traits-of-dysfunctional-parents-d1e1bf...

No, I'm not mad at you; and how many signs do you need??

https://medium.com/mystic-minds/what-does-telepathy-with-your-twin-flame-feel-like-2b1d7da34a5b" target="_blank">https://medium.com/mystic-minds/what-does-telepathy-with-your-twin-flame-feel-like-2b1d7da34a5b

https://medium.com/@yaelwolfe/why-i-gave-myself-an-engagement-ring-2cab06adaec5" target="_blank">https://medium.com/@yaelwolfe/why-i-gave-myself-an-engagement-ring-2cab06adaec5

https://www.mariemurphyphd.com/post/how-good-can-you-stand-it?postId=9e65b7b8-8fc3-4e90-b42a-de7ac8d5de7e&utm_campaign=935a6a55-cbf2-4385-9f7c-0dc06755d7c7&utm_source=so&utm_medium=mail&utm_content=285dcd77-42d8-4d47-8148-93c8045eb3e1&cid=3eb97bf7-5fe5-4471-b923-bc3513e8f867" target="_blank">https://www.mariemurphyphd.com/post/how-good-can-you-stand-it?postId=9e65b7b8-8fc3-4e90-b42a-de7ac8d5de7e&utm_campaign=935a6a55-cbf2-4385-9f7c-0dc06755d7c7&utm_...

https://rai-hathaway.medium.com/loss-and-grief-72ee994399f7" target="_blank">https://rai-hathaway.medium.com/loss-and-grief-72ee994399f7

https://medium.com/@yaniv_rose_/a-blindsiding-divorce-is-the-price-for-being-in-the-passenger-seat-of-your-life-b55dc705d099" target="_blank">https://medium.com/@yaniv_rose_/a-blindsiding-divorce-is-the-price-for-being-in-the-passenger-seat-of-your-life-b55dc705d099

On a related note, I have to share this.

The author is Kaki Okumura, who shares healthy eating advice by virtue of being Japanese-American. This is from her newsletter, which you can join here: https://expert-composer-5026.ck.page/82d0c904ef" target="_blank">https://expert-composer-5026.ck.page/82d0c904ef  (The drawings are also by Kaki. She is also an artist.)

Dear You (and you know who you are),

As you know, I dabble a lot in tarot and astrology. (When you're anxious to know the future of a relationship, that's a temptation.)


What I'm being told right now is that we have no future. (Well ... astrology says we do, and taro...

Is This Me?

Walter Rhein was writing about divorced people when he said this, but if you're the Other Person in a third-party situation, I think it also applies.

The thing h...

(And, you know, I know you're here so you might as well just read it. Sheesh.)

So, in my ongoing writing-about-infidelity career on Medium and YourTango, I often find myself railing against the common assertion that "Infidelity is ABUSE!!!" while the cheated-on person pretty much can treat the cheater A-N-Y way they please both before AND ...

There's a contact box on this website.

Jesus fucking Christ. AAAAUUUUUGGGHHHH!!!!!!!

(I'm okay now.) 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9whwEdUX3YQ