The Thinking Other Woman

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It's Bad Actors Who Try the Hardest to Look Good

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on November 27, 2022 at 5:35 PM

Is This Me?



Walter Rhein was writing about divorced people when he said this, but if you're the Other Person in a third-party situation, I think it also applies.


The thing h...

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Well, THIS Experience Was Really Sad ...

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on November 23, 2022 at 10:15 PM

(And, you know, I know you're here so you might as well just read it. Sheesh.)

So, in my ongoing writing-about-infidelity career on Medium and YourTango, I often find myself railing against the common assertion that "Infidelity is ABUSE!!!" while the cheated-on person pretty much can treat the cheater A-N-Y way they please both before AND ...

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If you want to talk to me, will you PLEASE just fucking TALK????

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on November 9, 2022 at 8:00 AM

There's a contact box on this website.

Jesus fucking Christ.
AAAAUUUUUGGGHHHH!!!!!!!

(I'm okay now.) ;)

This was amazing ...

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on October 16, 2022 at 7:40 PM

So, I wrote the previous entry, and I was very sad. I cried and wished more than anything he would come back and see that. I wanted him to know how I felt.


IT HAPPENED.


Like, almost immediately. I looked at Google Analytics, and there was an Android phone, coming ...

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I Just Want to Cry and Cry and Cry and Cry and Cry

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on October 16, 2022 at 7:35 AM

It's Crucible Time.


When you look at our ages, when you look at the astrology, when you look at the tarot cards, everything says the same thing.


We only have but so long to make crucial changes in our lives, before old age and dementia set in. He's going to be 64. Not much time left. ...

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I've been informed I need to leave a message here.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on October 9, 2022 at 9:35 PM

I don't know if you're going to come back here, but you have twice now, and I've been told I need to leave you a message, so here it is:

 

IF YOU WOULD FUCKING TALK TO ME, I WILL STILL TALK TO YOU.

 

(This offer will expire. Eight years is a long fucking time.)

I Know "He" Won't Be Back to Read This Anymore, But It Sure Is Interesting ...

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on September 26, 2022 at 12:00 AM

https://medium.com/@DrPsychMom/why-do-avoidant-women-change-less-frequently-than-avoidant-men-274e1461b4a7

AND you can see this reflected in her horoscope, as I show on the yods tab. Also reflected in what I know of her background.

Can A Person's Heart Be So Broken They'll Just Never, Ever Get Over It?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on September 15, 2022 at 4:55 PM



I think I’ve just been through way, way too much in life.


 

I know this guy is gone. Last seen: September 6 that I know of. Since then, there have been a couple of interesting visits by a person or persons who, hiding behind a VPN, have read my late...

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Sad.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on September 13, 2022 at 11:00 PM

MY AFFAIR PARTNER DOES NOT OWE ME HAPPINESS

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on July 26, 2022 at 11:10 AM

If only it could have been, if only it could have been, if only it could have been …


Man. How many times have I thought that over the past seven years?


The problem with it is, it isn't true.


When w...

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MESSAGE

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on July 24, 2022 at 7:30 PM

There isn't anything you've done that's unforgivable.

Yours.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on May 1, 2022 at 3:10 AM

Reality Really Does Bite.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on April 11, 2022 at 12:20 AM

 It Really, Really Does.


Recently I've finally done well enough to get a lot of old junk out of here that didn't work anymore, including an old secondhand entertainment center whose top sagged in the middle and an ancient, heavy old tube TV. Now there's a pretty, new, modern table in here, and, at last,...

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Let's Just Kiss, and Say Goodbye.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on April 9, 2022 at 10:05 PM

In about seven weeks, it will be seven years since I was dumped from this affair, and four years and seven months since I last spoke to the guy.


I have accepted that this person will never speak to me again. That I will never hear from, never see, this person, ever, ever again. Ever, ever, never.


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P.S. Dude, come on, really.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 27, 2022 at 11:45 PM

I know it's you. You can quit hiding behind the VPN. Your view pattern is TOO obvious, whether GA is telling me you're in Norfolk or Orlando or what-have-you. I mean, c'mon. :P

And, again, thanks for being here. You know why, because I saw you read it. :) Check out the links in the post below while you're here.

IF THIS REALLY IS YOU STILL SHOWING UP EVERY NOW AND THEN, I JUST WANT TO SAY THANK YOU.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 21, 2022 at 1:10 PM

So: I just unfriended my brother on Facebook. 

I guess that relationship, and every family relationship, is O-V-E-R.

Which, really, is a good thing. They were never really a family to me.


I thought, at the very least, me and my brother were sort of on speaking terms ... almost. But, you know, when a person writes online that he doesn't have any fam...

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I love you. If you ever come back, please read.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on January 11, 2022 at 11:10 PM

Hi.



I guess you read my last message and for some reason decided to stay away.



I don't know why. Maybe things are much better at home now, and you were only stopping by to check on me, hoping you didn't ruin my life and that I would just go on and find a way to become happy, as you are. Maybe things

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