The Thinking Other Woman

The thing about tarot readings is, whether you believe in them or not, they make you think. 

The one I just posted talks about my life being like scorched earth for a very long time. Boy, is THAT ever correct. It also talks about the idea that thinking some other person was supposed to come in and be everything that makes a fulfilling life ... maybe not being the best ...

It's safe to say this journey is over. 

This person's announced his intention never, ever to return. I've been through the whole thing ... the loss of a cherished dream, realizing where I was scared, selfish, and using someone, hoping for someone to change who couldn't change (at least it was only eight years this time instead of thirty-eight), growing through the loss of youth and taking on the mant...

I don't feel bad about reposting this from the comment section of another post from an adulterer I'm following. It's a public post already written for all to see, regarding posts he'd made in which he keeps bemoaning leaving his marriage for a relationship "that has no future":

With regard to those sta...

Although astrology sort of hamstrung me in getting over this relationship (for, oh, EIGHT YEARS), I still value it for the perspective it helped me reach on not only this but the entirety of my life and why I've spent so very much of it unhappy.

To Explain ...

Well, the person this blog is about finally broke a record. He hasn't been absent here for more than two months in ... seven years? I think so.

But, now he's done it. Interesting that his last visit here that I can prove was December 30th. (I did get something weird on Valentine's Day, but who knows?)

"Then said Almitra, speak to us of love. And he raised his head and looked upon the people, and there fell a stillness upon them. And with a great voice he said, When love beckons to you, follow him. Though his ways are hard and steep. And when his wings enfold you yield to him, Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. And when he speaks to you, believe him, Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north win...

I have a comfy green couch that's destined for the scrap heap in just a week or two. 

I'm very sad about that, not only because I love the color, but because of the significance of this couch and how and why I originally bought it. I've had it almost exactly eight years.

Shortly after I and the pers...

Oh, well.

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In about two weeks, it will be exactly eight years since our first "I love you"'s.

I don't think I care anymore.

It's as if over the past eight years, I've basically crumpled up every single little thing that made up who I used to be and t...

                   The chauffeur's daughter's about to get dumped, a scene from Sabrina (1995).

Nobody much cared for the 1995 remake of Sabrina, mostly because the fabulous Julia Ormond wasn't Audrey Hepburn. Nonetheless, I found it a wise and gentle film, one I've seen dozens of times. ...

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The affair's been over almost eight years. I haven't even seen his face in over seven. We haven't spoken in five.

So, what the hell is UP with this???

Since I wrote "Let's Just Kiss and Say Goodbye" in April of t...

Is This Me?

Walter Rhein was writing about divorced people when he said this, but if you're the Other Person in a third-party situation, I think it also applies.

The thing h...

(And, you know, I know you're here so you might as well just read it. Sheesh.)

So, in my ongoing writing-about-infidelity career on Medium and YourTango, I often find myself railing against the common assertion that "Infidelity is ABUSE!!!" while the cheated-on person pretty much can treat the cheater A-N-Y way they please both before AND ...

I've heard, and it makes lots of sense, and I already knew this, that once you're a whole, happy person who's engaged in something they love that feels purposeful to them, you're just going to naturally attract the people who click, fit, are available, and feel right.

The trouble is, I can't do that anymore.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3wxyN3z9PL4&list=RDDBEl7nzOB_M&index=3

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6BaQdHXqcXg&list=RDGMEM6CZm14o9sc-Q22TIneLI8g&index=4

This is going to be an “open letter” because this person doesn’t visit here anymore. I’m sure he won’t come back and will never see it.

I did this. I was the one who asked you WTF you were still hanging about for if you were never going to speak. But, from my point of view, I had to.

So, I wrote the previous entry, and I was very sad. I cried and wished more than anything he would come back and see that. I wanted him to know how I felt.

IT HAPPENED.

Like, almost immediately. I looked at Google Analytics, and there was an Android phone, coming ...

https://medium.com/@DrPsychMom/why-do-avoidant-women-change-less-frequently-than-avoidant-men-274e1461b4a7

AND you can see this reflected in her horoscope, as I show on the yods tab. Also reflected in what I know of her background.

All I can say for sure is that something is going on.

I get a lot of tarot readings these days that assure the hapless viewer that the person in question is off thinking about their options and wishes they could return. I also get a lot that talk about the person being STUCK as usual, which, after seven years, bodes no good.

What I know is that the last visit here I know this person made was the 6th of September. He might...