The Thinking Other Woman

I don't feel bad about reposting this from the comment section of another post from an adulterer I'm following. It's a public post already written for all to see, regarding posts he'd made in which he keeps bemoaning leaving his marriage for a relationship "that has no future":

With regard to those sta...

I'm glad I stumbled onto Medium, not only as a way to make extra money, but as a way to learn. I've learned so much from other people who tell their real life stories about infidelity and heartbreak there. (Word to the wise: Number of people I've seen on there who started out as an affair and ended up happily married? TWO.)

Here lately a certain (Medium) famous couple is...

"What I’m going to offer you now is a set of practices for being with someone you care about when they’re experiencing discomfort, which can be especially useful when you are pretty obviously the occasion of their discomfort. Let’s say, for instance, that you’ve just told your spouse you want a divorce. Your spouse is upset. What can you actually do in that situation?"

You know, I'd really, REALLY listen to this podcast if I were you ...

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If you’re worried that other people will judge you for your infidelity situation, your concerns might not be unfounded.

Let’s say you’re married, and you’re involved with someone else, and you know in your bones that you don’t want to be married to your spouse anymore – and you really want to have the opportunity to give your relationship with your affair p...

https://medium.com/@DrPsychMom/my-husband-cheated-and-i-also-want-to-cheat-86117d632198" target="_blank">https://medium.com/@DrPsychMom/my-husband-cheated-and-i-also-want-to-cheat-86117d632198

Since I've been on here writing about infidelity, many have chosen to throw stones, informing me most helpfully that the reason I write is to make excuses for myself, and for filthy adulterers like the folks I comment on, publish here, or write about.

Wrong!

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This time of year, it’s very predictable: the spate of pieces that come out from those few therapists who write a lot about affairs and cheating. How to Make It Through the Holidays. Why The Holidays May Be So Much Tougher for You this Year.

Well, here’s a new one.

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https://medium.com/@yaniv_rose_/a-blindsiding-divorce-is-the-price-for-being-in-the-passenger-seat-of-your-life-b55dc705d099" target="_blank">https://medium.com/@yaniv_rose_/a-blindsiding-divorce-is-the-price-for-being-in-the-passenger-seat-of-your-life-b55dc705d099

                   The chauffeur's daughter's about to get dumped, a scene from Sabrina (1995).

Nobody much cared for the 1995 remake of Sabrina, mostly because the fabulous Julia Ormond wasn't Audrey Hepburn. Nonetheless, I found it a wise and gentle film, one I've seen dozens of times. ...

Don'tcha just motherfucking HATE life???

Very often I see this perspective that life isn't going to get better for us unless and until we "Just Believe!!!!"

However, everything I've

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9whwEdUX3YQ

I just heard from my mother again after a lapse of about thirteen years.

For many years before that, my mother would bring problems with other people to me, expecting me to listen for literally hours on end as she went on and on about how badly someone had treated her.

I clocked her at three hours once, I'm not kidding.

I've decided to just stay by myself and heal codependency. I'm fat and old, and I don't want another relationship. Fuck knows, I don't want to online date! I don't care if I never have sex with anyone again. I don't expect much in life anymore. All I'm going to do is work and pay bills and end up in a nursing home.

I was stupid enough to spend my whole life thinking Something Wonderful was going to "happen" and my life would suddenly get...

Here I am staring at what has and hasn't transpired and going: What the hell?

There's no doubt, looking at their transits, that the ultimate fate of that marriage will be decided about two years from now. Stand or fall, stay together or leave, happily or unhappily. In the meantime, the person who so ...

So, as anyone can read, I was feeling pretty low a couple of days ago.

*sigh* If people never felt low, the occult pseudosciences would never have been developed. Because, at these low periods, we have NO answers. (If we did, we wouldn't feel as low, now would we?)

When we feel low, and there are no answers, that...

I've had a pile of page views on here this week. Unfortunately, the locator map isn't working, so I have no clue where anyone is from.

Yesterday, Mars went direct.

(Actually, I had heard both the 13th and the 14th, but it's definitely direct by now.) In six weeks (right about Christmas Day), it will hit the yods one more time and then clear on out of here. Nothing else important will hit the yods for th...