The Thinking Other Woman

What you should know BEFORE your affair.


A Word About the Astrology

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on November 6, 2022 at 9:10 AM

So, from the way this all has shaken out, it would be tempting for many to say astrology is bunk because we didn't end up together.

Ah, not so.

Sorry to burst the skeptic bubble, but wayyy too many things did happen that were in our transits to be coincidence. Astrology paints wayyy

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Hello? Or Goodbye?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on September 22, 2022 at 3:25 PM

All I can say for sure is that something is going on.

I get a lot of tarot readings these days that assure the hapless viewer that the person in question is off thinking about their options and wishes they could return. I also get a lot that talk about the person being STUCK as usual, which, after seven years, bodes no good.

What I know is that the last visit here I know this person made was the 6th of September. He might...

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Can A Person's Heart Be So Broken They'll Just Never, Ever Get Over It?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on September 15, 2022 at 4:55 PM

I think I’ve just been through way, way too much in life.


I know this guy is gone. Last seen: September 6 that I know of. Since then, there have been a couple of interesting visits by a person or persons who, hiding behind a VPN, have read my late...

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Afraid to lose me and afraid to talk to me? Well, this is me.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on September 15, 2022 at 2:20 AM

I don't know if you're going to come back here, but you have twice now, and I've been told I need to leave you a message, so here it is:


(This offer will expire. Eight years is a long fucking time.)

My Ex-Affair Partner and His Wife Have Been Married Forty Years

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on September 11, 2022 at 1:20 PM

A little over seven years ago this person moved out of their house with the intent to be with me.

This didn't last, of course. (When does it ever?) After he moved out, his very emotionally distant wife, once she was done crying, went around telling everyone he was "depressed" and "crazy," yet insisted on marriage c...

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Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on August 17, 2022 at 7:35 PM

Me: Creative Process Spread

Creative force behind the project: Nine of Swords reversed.

Imagination: Page of pentacles

Emotion: Two of cups.

Thought: Six of cups.

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Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on August 10, 2022 at 9:15 PM

If I hadn't seen a certain pattern of hits on here YET AGAIN (what did I say about this person disappearing for two months and then here he is again?) I would not believe a certain message I have received. But, I DO see the hits, therefore I tend to believe the message.

So, I need to leave this message:

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The Time Draws Near

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on August 6, 2022 at 8:40 PM

Might as well talk about the astrology of the next three years. There’s a big split in the transits for all three people in our triangle that starts right about now. Make no mistake, the major period of action doesn’t start until this time next year, and it goes for two years … but, if no groundwork for that gets laid (groundwork like, I’m 64 years old and this is my last chance to bail if I really want a different kind...

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Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on July 26, 2022 at 11:10 AM

If only it could have been, if only it could have been, if only it could have been …

Man. How many times have I thought that over the past seven years?

The problem with it is, it isn't true.

When w...

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New Fave Quote

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on July 18, 2022 at 1:05 PM

“Love is inherently free. It cannot be bought, sold, or traded. You cannot make someone love you, nor can you prevent it — not for any amount of money. Love cannot be imprisoned, nor can it be legislated. Love is not a substance, not a commodity, not even a marketable power source. Love has no territory, no borders, no quantifiable mass or energy output,” said Dr. Deborah Anapol in her book The Seven Natural Laws of Love as s...

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MY NEW LIFE, book 3

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on July 17, 2022 at 8:10 PM

This idea of twin flames being soul mirrors of one another definitely has something to it.


The weather finally cleared up enough today that I could do thirty laps in the pool, and while I’m swimming around I’m thinking about an online reading I listened to, about how twin flames can’t...

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What If I Had Never Met You?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on May 30, 2022 at 2:35 AM

A rhetorical question, since the person in question has not visited in more than a month. I'm pretty sure he read "Let's Just Kiss And Say Goodbye," read every blog he had ever wanted to read, and, as requested, left here forever.

I'm not going to complain. I was just in this constant cycle of checking here, seeing he had been here, being thrilled he was still here ... and checking here, seeing he had bee...

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Don't Ever Watch "Cast Away" If You're In This Situation.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on May 24, 2022 at 2:00 PM

So, at the very end of Cast Away starring Tom Hanks and Helen Hunt (and good grief, Mr. Big), Chuck Noland, the Tom Hanks character, newly lean from four years struggling to survive on a desert island, does this completely foolhardy thing, striking out to sea on a homemade raft, and is miraculously found and flown back to civilization.

The entire time he's longed for his fi...

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The Person I Had the Affair with Was Really My Mother

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on May 23, 2022 at 12:50 AM

Everyone experiencing a romantic relationship that isn’t going well: Quick! Pull out a sheet of paper and jot down all the ways your beloved and your most troublesome and hurtful parent are similar.


Something tells me the list will be long.


In my case: My ent...

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And Yet Another Card Reading Hits Me Between The Eyes

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on May 19, 2022 at 12:05 AM

Dirty Sally with Worthless, the mule.

So I'm watching a card reading last night, and this was said:

I w...

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So, My Therapist Wants Me On Antidepressants ...

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on April 14, 2022 at 10:40 PM

It's like this ...

My new book went up on Amazon two days ago. I felt triumphant about that mostly because I had only ever heard about how fucking horrible KDP is to work with, and I had approached the task with trepidation. I decided to try using Kindle Create instead, although a friend reported that people online were saying they hated it.

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HiLARious card reading, for those into tarot

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 17, 2022 at 5:45 PM

From the Minchiate Tarot, me:

Past: Charity, reversed. (No shit.)
Present: Seven of Swords, reversed. (Oh, really?) (Sure. I'll eat my hair if that happens.)
Future: Aries. (Let's hope so.)

Shadow Truth spread, Chi:

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