The Thinking Other Woman

https://medium.com/relationships101/your-guide-to-fearful-avoidant-attachment-how-to-spot-it-signs-youve-got-it-how-to-fix-it-fa4a10be902a

A rhetorical question, since the person in question has not visited in more than a month. I'm pretty sure he read "Let's Just Kiss And Say Goodbye," read every blog he had ever wanted to read, and, as requested, left here forever.

I'm not going to complain. I was just in this constant cycle of checking here, seeing he had been here, being thrilled he was still here ... and checking here, seeing he had bee...

Everyone experiencing a romantic relationship that isn’t going well: Quick! Pull out a sheet of paper and jot down all the ways your beloved and your most troublesome and hurtful parent are similar.

Something tells me the list will be long.

In my case: My ent...

After having this guy show up and read SO MANY BLOGS several weeks ago, and receiving so many card reading suggesting the person would show back up and want to talk, I went and looked at transits to our Davison for the weekend coming up ... because I know of something going on that weekend that would make it an opportune time.

OK, everyone can point fingers and call me an idiot. People get broken up with every day, and healthy people get over it in a matter of months, not years.

They also don’t choose to get involved with anyone married in the first place.

For me, the lure of my married guy held twin, powerful d...

Dirty Sally with Worthless, the mule.

So I'm watching a card reading last night, and this was said:

I w...

Because if you continue to treat your husband like a plant you need to water… he’ll wilt or pull up roots.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tR4JuO2F96E

And I'd take a look, if I were you.

https://thethinkingotherwoman.webs.com/this-amazing-thing-happened

How can you tell whether an impulse is coming from your ego or your soul?

Your ego wants you to stay stuck and stay the same. Your soul wants you to move forward.

P.S. It's my understanding you have something you wish you had told me. What is it?

Some of this post is going to be redundant. Some of the text is from a new page I'm preparing for the astrology tab of this site. But, I'm putting it here for a reason: A certain visitor does not visit any other page except the blog. If I expect him to find it on the astrology tab, I'll be waiting for a long time. 

But, it's going up here for the following reason:

https://medium.com/invisible-illness/6-beliefs-we-have-if-were-codependent-5f4f8ab725d2

https://medium.com/invisible-illness/5-signs-you-had-a-codependent-upbringing-127cb8550775

https://www.mariemurphyphd.com/post/past-vs-future-focus?postId=3c330853-ad32-4427-8baa-baad2165a733&utm_campaign=e6bbf6a1-eb91-4d85-8cbb-905b0e369837&utm_source=so&utm_medium=mail&utm_content=18f58622-fb15-4250-9f9d-398c3e207845&cid=3eb97bf7-5fe5-4471-b923-bc3513e8f867

After nearly two weeks, I had thought my mysterious visitor had finally decided never to come back. But, this morning, there he was. #8309....

This time appearing as if from "Baltimore," the person skipped over the antidepressant post, the book post, the link post, and the "Reality Bites" post, to read "Let's Just Kiss and Say Goodbye." (Boy, those lyrics were spot-on!) ...

It's like this ...

My new book went up on Amazon two days ago. I felt triumphant about that mostly because I had only ever heard about how fucking horrible KDP is to work with, and I had approached the task with trepidation. I decided to try using Kindle Create instead, although a friend reported that people online were saying they hated it.

ANNOUNCING ...

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09XQ3X15G/ref=sr_1_1?crid=264HGB0IE1KCY&keywords=struggling+in+or+with+an+affair&qid=1649757960&s=books&sprefix=struggling+in+or+with+an+affair%2Cstripbooks%2C69&sr=1-1

My new ebook is live on Amazon!

...

https://medium.com/hello-love/how-to-be-alone-the-subtle-art-of-learning-to-love-yourself-b7cd09079e15

 It Really, Really Does.

Recently I've finally done well enough to get a lot of old junk out of here that didn't work anymore, including an old secondhand entertainment center whose top sagged in the middle and an ancient, heavy old tube TV. Now there's a pretty, new, modern table in here, and, at last,...

In about seven weeks, it will be seven years since I was dumped from this affair, and four years and seven months since I last spoke to the guy.

I have accepted that this person will never speak to me again. That I will never hear from, never see, this person, ever, ever again. Ever, ever, never.

Boy, that last one. That last one. Very, very relevant.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/articles/200901/hold-me-tight

https://thrivingisthegoal.com/2014/09/19/affective-deprivation-disorder-alexithymia-and-high-functioning-autism-in-marriage/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/articles/201205/how-grow