The Thinking Other Woman

What you should know BEFORE your affair.


I Realized I Am A Very Angry Person

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 8, 2022 at 7:10 PM

So here I am struggling to get my essay book lined up and figure out how to work KDP, which I swore I would never do, because I hate struggling with difficult software so much that I believed it would never be worth it for a book that would never sell. But now I'm banned on Medium, so I have to put out a book if I want anyone to see these essays.

But why am I banned on Me...

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What's Your Get-Over-It Response Time?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 5, 2022 at 4:50 PM

So, I posted recently about my brother not responding to me when I tried to check in on Facebook how our mother is doing in the hospital. He just didn't answer me, and one of his friends yelled at me. I posted about being utterly alone in the world now, and how it was actually for real. And I was really distressed about that.

What astounded me was, a day or two later, I was like, "Okay. Fine." I h...

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P.S. Dude, come on, really.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 27, 2022 at 11:45 PM

I know it's you. You can quit hiding behind the VPN. Your view pattern is TOO obvious, whether GA is telling me you're in Norfolk or Orlando or what-have-you. I mean, c'mon. :P

And, again, thanks for being here. You know why, because I saw you read it. :) Check out the links in the post below while you're here.


Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 21, 2022 at 1:10 PM

So: I just unfriended my brother on Facebook. 

I guess that relationship, and every family relationship, is O-V-E-R.

Which, really, is a good thing. They were never really a family to me.

I thought, at the very least, me and my brother were sort of on speaking terms ... almost. But, you know, when a person writes online that he doesn't have any fam...

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OK, so now that you've got the backdrop (see the previous post), here's what's going on:

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 19, 2022 at 7:40 PM
*I don't know why this stupid thing keeps changing color.

Having taken care of my great aunt and cousin the past 
thirteen years--well, the last one passed away a year 
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WTF? v. 3

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 12, 2022 at 3:50 PM

I'm still doing the Darlene Lancer codependency book; it's just gotten a little derailed because of the sudden need to start compiling and editing all my old essays into one file and then struggle with KDP. (If you don't know why, check out the "bad news" post a few entries down. I miss reading and interacting on Medium, but I was wasting a lot of time there. I do mean to continue with the exercises from the Darlene Lancer book, maybe tomorrow wh...

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More thoughts, and bad news.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on January 29, 2022 at 6:15 AM

SO ... I forgot to check transits to our Davisons. (How could I??) This is for Valentine's Day, natch:


Our Davison: Jupiter sextile Moon, Uranus conjunct Moon (actually, that was exact on the 15th. As you know, didn't...

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So, since this person is never coming back ...

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on January 27, 2022 at 6:50 PM

I've decided to just stay by myself and heal codependency. I'm fat and old, and I don't want another relationship. Fuck knows, I don't want to online date! I don't care if I never have sex with anyone again. I don't expect much in life anymore. All I'm going to do is work and pay bills and end up in a nursing home.

I was stupid enough to spend my whole life thinking Something Wonderful was going to "happen" and my life would suddenly get...

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What Could I Have Done Differently?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on January 3, 2022 at 6:00 PM

For the longest time, a married guy I had a four-month emotional affair with kept lurking around my website. 

Even when he started hiding behind a VPN, I figured out it was him, because he would go directly to a post or two I had made specifically to him when I was still trying to figure out if it was him or not, and he would read them over and over. ...

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Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on November 2, 2021 at 11:30 PM

Charlie, maybe you missed it, but I sent you an email.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on November 2, 2021 at 1:40 PM

Hi! Thanks for stopping by. I got your contact form, and sorry, but I don't know a Charlie. I'm not the droid you're looking for. :(

Horoscopes. Card readings. They're real.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on October 8, 2021 at 4:50 AM

This will be short, because I'm supposed to be asleep.

Since I posted the new message on Resources You Are Looking For and Will My XXXXXXX Area Visitor Please Stand Up, SOMEone has come directly to those postings (I can't even find them without using the search function on here!), seen the heading, and, once again, scat like light. He didn't even read the whole message. BUT, he HAS come back to l...

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Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on September 22, 2021 at 10:45 PM

OK, I'm thoroughly confused.

This is the THIRD time someone on a mobile has come on the site, not gone to the main blog page and searched, or gone to any other page, and entered the site straight on one of the messages I posted up here for him, then gone straight to the other,

Google Analytics tells me this person is in PARIS. 

PARIS. What the fuck???

How are people doing this? Going str...

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Where The Rubber Meets The Road

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on September 8, 2021 at 11:35 PM

Looking along the long vista of transits I've researched, we're reaching the point of no return pretty soon, here. Even other people's card readings are saying the same thing. The next six to eight months are the fork in the road.

We've gone so long without speaking, we're on the point of just giving up on this connection. Which would make sense to anyone; I know I am. I mean, let's face it: When you haven't seen someone's face in six years and haven't ...

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Shorthand, for those who can read tarot.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on May 16, 2021 at 9:30 AM

Spread One: Me:

This is a Celtic Cross spread.

Central issue: The Devil. Obstacle in the way: Knight of Wands. Goal: The Hanged Man. Foundation: The Moon. Passing Influence: Queen of Swords. Approaching influence: Hierophant reversed. Your role: The World. Environment: King of Pentacles. Hope, fear, unexpected element: Hermit reversed. Outcome: High priestess, reversed.

Chi: Death, reversed.

Rory: Celtic Cross again.

Central issue: Seven of Cups. O...

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No, I'm not mad at you.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on May 2, 2021 at 7:40 PM

So it's come to my attention that on April 13, a person on a mobile phone came STRAIGHT here, went to The Resources You Are Looking For, then went to my other post where it looked as if the person in question had visited, (Will My XXXX Area Visitor Please Stand Up?), then back to the Resources post, and left ... after being here something like three hours.

Now, who would do that?

I have a pretty good idea, and I realize the difference in ...

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Card Readings and Hopelessness

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 21, 2021 at 9:40 PM

So, as anyone can read, I was feeling pretty low a couple of days ago.

*sigh* If people never felt low, the occult pseudosciences would never have been developed. Because, at these low periods, we have NO answers. (If we did, we wouldn't feel as low, now would we?)

When we feel low, and there are no answers, that...

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My Life Has Been So, So Sad,

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 19, 2021 at 12:35 AM

If I'm never going to be a real writer, I must at least have the dedication to be one, because I'm forever telling myself it's all over, no one reads this stupid thing on Wattpad and I might as well quit ... and the next thing I know I'm back on YouTube, watching birth and baby story videos because Ridley has a six-month-old and I have to write this young mother with a new baby and I never had a baby.

So I ran across

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