The Thinking Other Woman

What you should know BEFORE your affair.


The Astrology of the Next Week

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on May 22, 2022 at 10:15 PM

After having this guy show up and read SO MANY BLOGS several weeks ago, and receiving so many card reading suggesting the person would show back up and want to talk, I went and looked at transits to our Davison for the weekend coming up ... because I know of something going on that weekend that would make it an opportune time.

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Why Did It Take Me Seven Years to Give Up on My Affair Partner?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on May 19, 2022 at 4:40 PM

OK, everyone can point fingers and call me an idiot. People get broken up with every day, and healthy people get over it in a matter of months, not years.


They also don’t choose to get involved with anyone married in the first place.


For me, the lure of my married guy held twin, powerful d...

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Really, Really Ill

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on May 5, 2022 at 4:50 PM

Well, I don't know what's happened. I've either caught Giardia at work, or food poisoning, or something like Norovirus is going around again and I have it. (Note the choice of PUKE-green lettering.)

I haven't been able to eat anything for four days. I have been basically confined to the couch (heavily padded with quilts and towels), barely able to drag myself to the bath...

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Living What's Left, Part 2

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on May 1, 2022 at 2:30 PM

Therapist Samantha Rodman Whiten, writing to a reader about treatment-resistant depression, writes:

"In a sense, if you know that every day will be gray and stifling, but you are still strong enough to exercise, parent, and write to me, then you may be very well suited to try and find a new and transformative purpose in your l...

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Constructing More About Astrology For A Certain Visitor ...

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on April 24, 2022 at 11:20 AM

Some of this post is going to be redundant. Some of the text is from a new page I'm preparing for the astrology tab of this site. But, I'm putting it here for a reason: A certain visitor does not visit any other page except the blog. If I expect him to find it on the astrology tab, I'll be waiting for a long time. 

But, it's going up here for the following reason:

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Received this piece of information about you, (in case you ever come back here again.)

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on April 23, 2022 at 7:15 AM

This came out of a card reading: You're trying to pretend the past didn't happen to you, when nothing's going to get better unless and until you go back and heal it. We're talking about your ACOA childhood, here.

I already told you this. :| Maybe start listening, before you DIE?

Are We Really Advising People to Have Sex by the Third Date Now?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on April 22, 2022 at 9:10 PM


Maybe I'm getting old.

No, maybe it's time for the nursing home already.

I have actually discovered online, a therapist recommending women have sex by the third d...

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I Think I'm Finally Getting a Tiny, Little Peek At It

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on April 17, 2022 at 1:35 PM

After nearly two weeks, I had thought my mysterious visitor had finally decided never to come back. But, this morning, there he was. #8309....

This time appearing as if from "Baltimore," the person skipped over the antidepressant post, the book post, the link post, and the "Reality Bites" post, to read "Let's Just Kiss and Say Goodbye." (Boy, those lyrics were spot-on!) ...

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So, My Therapist Wants Me On Antidepressants ...

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on April 14, 2022 at 10:40 PM

It's like this ...

My new book went up on Amazon two days ago. I felt triumphant about that mostly because I had only ever heard about how fucking horrible KDP is to work with, and I had approached the task with trepidation. I decided to try using Kindle Create instead, although a friend reported that people online were saying they hated it.

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What's Changed In Seven Years, Book Three: On Neediness

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 27, 2022 at 5:20 AM

I once read a series of books by a homeless guy, who one night, in a fit of rage, started an angry letter to God, then reported that he heard God's voice, which gave him an answer. His writings became the Conversations With God series. While I eventually tossed those books, because there was too much "law of attraction" in them (THAT stupid concept doesn't deserve caps), one concept in them does still stand out years later as real truth.

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What's Changed In Seven Years, Book Two

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 24, 2022 at 9:40 AM

"I knew I would have made him happier!" or, The Time-Honored Competitive Mantra of The Snarky Other Woman.

Oy. So much to say about this. Suffice it to say: It isn't true.

Last night I snuck back onto Medium to view another entry in the continuing saga of a woman who, after years of terrib...

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What's Changed In Seven Years, Book One

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 20, 2022 at 8:15 AM

Coming up on May 28th, it will be seven years since this guy dumped me to go into marriage counseling with his wife (good), and then stayed even though he wasn't happy with the outcome (who knows whether that was good or not. A lot can change in four and a half years.)

I know the guy hangs around here. That would seem to imply that staying wasn't a good thing ... but who...

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I Realized I Am A Very Angry Person

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 8, 2022 at 7:10 PM

So here I am struggling to get my essay book lined up and figure out how to work KDP, which I swore I would never do, because I hate struggling with difficult software so much that I believed it would never be worth it for a book that would never sell. But now I'm banned on Medium, so I have to put out a book if I want anyone to see these essays.

But why am I banned on Me...

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What's Your Get-Over-It Response Time?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 5, 2022 at 4:50 PM

So, I posted recently about my brother not responding to me when I tried to check in on Facebook how our mother is doing in the hospital. He just didn't answer me, and one of his friends yelled at me. I posted about being utterly alone in the world now, and how it was actually for real. And I was really distressed about that.

What astounded me was, a day or two later, I was like, "Okay. Fine." I h...

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P.S. Dude, come on, really.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 27, 2022 at 11:45 PM

I know it's you. You can quit hiding behind the VPN. Your view pattern is TOO obvious, whether GA is telling me you're in Norfolk or Orlando or what-have-you. I mean, c'mon. :P

And, again, thanks for being here. You know why, because I saw you read it. :) Check out the links in the post below while you're here.


Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 21, 2022 at 1:10 PM

So: I just unfriended my brother on Facebook. 

I guess that relationship, and every family relationship, is O-V-E-R.

Which, really, is a good thing. They were never really a family to me.

I thought, at the very least, me and my brother were sort of on speaking terms ... almost. But, you know, when a person writes online that he doesn't have any fam...

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OK, so now that you've got the backdrop (see the previous post), here's what's going on:

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 19, 2022 at 7:40 PM
*I don't know why this stupid thing keeps changing color.

Having taken care of my great aunt and cousin the past 
thirteen years--well, the last one passed away a year 
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WTF? v. 3

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 12, 2022 at 3:50 PM

I'm still doing the Darlene Lancer codependency book; it's just gotten a little derailed because of the sudden need to start compiling and editing all my old essays into one file and then struggle with KDP. (If you don't know why, check out the "bad news" post a few entries down. I miss reading and interacting on Medium, but I was wasting a lot of time there. I do mean to continue with the exercises from the Darlene Lancer book, maybe tomorrow wh...

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