The Thinking Other Woman

What you should know BEFORE your affair.


A Life of Meaning. What IS That, Anyway?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 30, 2023 at 3:00 PM

The thing about tarot readings is, whether you believe in them or not, they make you think. 

The one I just posted talks about my life being like scorched earth for a very long time. Boy, is THAT ever correct. It also talks about the idea that thinking some other person was supposed to come in and be everything that makes a fulfilling life ... maybe not being the best ...

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Pulling out all the transit interpretations for the post that appears below this one ...

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 19, 2023 at 8:10 PM



Jupiter square itself: A tendency toward excess. Tests your understanding of the world in that if you have gotten overconfident, you could have financial (or other) problems.



Jupiter square Uranus: A sudden change in life direction or a sudden change in fortune. It coul...

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The Crucible Revisited

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 19, 2023 at 7:25 PM

I had posted this earlier, but I mixed natal things in the charts together with the transit that is about to come through: Jupiter hitting the apex of my yod and boomeranging his. I keep trying to pound and pound and pound into my soul that IT'S TIME TO GIVE UP. I know there's no hope here, and I'm about to receive incontrovertible proof. We all know twin flames just teach horrible, painful lessons and don't work out. Time to swallow that for goo...

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Now He's Gone

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on March 5, 2023 at 11:00 PM

Well, the person this blog is about finally broke a record. He hasn't been absent here for more than two months in ... seven years? I think so.

But, now he's done it. Interesting that his last visit here that I can prove was December 30th. (I did get something weird on Valentine's Day, but who knows?)

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The Crucible

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 16, 2023 at 6:35 AM

This will probably be the last transit analysis I will do on these three charts. There won't be any need to do another one.

Astrology suggests there is about to be a make-or-break turning point in the situation. On April 27th, Jupiter will exactly hit the tip of my yod, which means it will exactly boomerang his yod. (Actually this period starts on the 22nd and goes through May 1st.)

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This message is for you.

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There Was Never Any Point Waiting For This Guy. Never, Ever, Ever.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on January 19, 2023 at 2:10 AM

*Sorry, y'all. This blog is getting wonky, with lapses of formatting I can't fix.

"The end really weighed heavily on my heart. I would have done anything to save my ex. She didn't know how special she really was."

--anonymous poster on the internet.

So, it's finally time to give up.

It really is t...

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2022 Draws to a Close ... and Boy, Am I Glad

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on December 31, 2022 at 10:50 PM

On the 24th of January, it will be a full eight years since we first said I Love You in emails to one another. Every year on this date, I used to put a heart up on my old Facebook profile we corresponded on. I did that on his birthday, too. In case he ever went there and saw them. I don't think I will this year. 

For me, hate to say it but it's been eight years of hell.

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Was I Supposed to Have Done Anything Else in Life Other Than Exist?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on December 17, 2022 at 11:00 AM

And Why Was I Supposed to Exist?

Don't get me wrong, I know why we exist. We are supposed to be born helpless human babies on Planet Earth, get messed up and deeply psychologically wounded by parents who were wounded themselves, and then spend the rest of our lives consciously growing ourselves up and fixing the wounds we grew up with.

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Well, THIS Experience Was Really Sad ...

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on November 23, 2022 at 10:15 PM

(And, you know, I know you're here so you might as well just read it. Sheesh.)

So, in my ongoing writing-about-infidelity career on Medium and YourTango, I often find myself railing against the common assertion that "Infidelity is ABUSE!!!" while the cheated-on person pretty much can treat the cheater A-N-Y way they please both before AND ...

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I Need a New Mantra.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on November 5, 2022 at 5:35 PM

Don'tcha just motherfucking HATE life???

Very often I see this perspective that life isn't going to get better for us unless and until we "Just Believe!!!!"

However, everything I've

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I'll Explain This Later if There's Any Call To.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on November 1, 2022 at 5:05 PM

Edit: 11/11/22. Yep. He was here. About three days after this, but still. Nobody else would go directly to this ONE post as if he'd bookmarked it.

Some call this date "the eleven-eleven portal." Trivia.

An Open Letter to My Ex-Affair Partner

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on October 21, 2022 at 1:45 AM

This is going to be an “open letter” because this person doesn’t visit here anymore. I’m sure he won’t come back and will never see it.


I did this. I was the one who asked you WTF you were still hanging about for if you were never going to speak. But, from my point of view, I had to.


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And Now, the Astrology

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on October 19, 2022 at 4:50 PM

So after something astounding like I just wrote about in the last blog (who would expect THAT after almost eight years??), I knew there had to be some interesting astrology attached, and ... there was.

Transits to the Davison for 10/16/22: Mercury return. North Node conj Moon. Moon square Mercury. Jupiter opp Mercury. Sun and Venus are about to conj Mars but are still 2-4 degrees away. Venus opp Jupiter. Saturn return. Uranus square Satu...

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I Just Want to Cry and Cry and Cry and Cry and Cry

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on October 16, 2022 at 7:35 AM

It's Crucible Time.

When you look at our ages, when you look at the astrology, when you look at the tarot cards, everything says the same thing.

We only have but so long to make crucial changes in our lives, before old age and dementia set in. He's going to be 64. Not much time left. ...

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Realizations in Yet Another Crisis

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on October 2, 2022 at 2:05 AM

So, suddenly a crisis has come up at work. Not sure exactly why, but management has suddenly gone completely off the rails and begun attacking long-time employees in a savage and unprofessional manner.

A bunch of us are forming a union of sorts to demand change, but I expect that this will not work and most likely we will all be looking for jobs very soon. I have been drafted to write the letter from the staff, so I am working on that th...

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Can A Person's Heart Be So Broken They'll Just Never, Ever Get Over It?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on September 15, 2022 at 4:55 PM

I think I’ve just been through way, way too much in life.


I know this guy is gone. Last seen: September 6 that I know of. Since then, there have been a couple of interesting visits by a person or persons who, hiding behind a VPN, have read my late...

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Afraid to lose me and afraid to talk to me? Well, this is me.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on September 15, 2022 at 2:20 AM

I don't know if you're going to come back here, but you have twice now, and I've been told I need to leave you a message, so here it is:


(This offer will expire. Eight years is a long fucking time.)

My Ex-Affair Partner and His Wife Have Been Married Forty Years

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on September 11, 2022 at 1:20 PM

A little over seven years ago this person moved out of their house with the intent to be with me.

This didn't last, of course. (When does it ever?) After he moved out, his very emotionally distant wife, once she was done crying, went around telling everyone he was "depressed" and "crazy," yet insisted on marriage c...

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