The Thinking Other Woman

What you should know BEFORE your affair.


Well, THIS Experience Was Really Sad ...

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on November 23, 2022 at 10:15 PM

(And, you know, I know you're here so you might as well just read it. Sheesh.)

So, in my ongoing writing-about-infidelity career on Medium and YourTango, I often find myself railing against the common assertion that "Infidelity is ABUSE!!!" while the cheated-on person pretty much can treat the cheater A-N-Y way they please both before AND ...

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I Need a New Mantra.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on November 5, 2022 at 5:35 PM

Don'tcha just motherfucking HATE life???

Very often I see this perspective that life isn't going to get better for us unless and until we "Just Believe!!!!"

However, everything I've

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I'll Explain This Later if There's Any Call To.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on November 1, 2022 at 5:05 PM

Edit: 11/11/22. Yep. He was here. About three days after this, but still. Nobody else would go directly to this ONE post as if he'd bookmarked it.

Some call this date "the eleven-eleven portal." Trivia.

An Open Letter to My Ex-Affair Partner

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on October 21, 2022 at 1:45 AM

This is going to be an “open letter” because this person doesn’t visit here anymore. I’m sure he won’t come back and will never see it.


I did this. I was the one who asked you WTF you were still hanging about for if you were never going to speak. But, from my point of view, I had to.


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And Now, the Astrology

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on October 19, 2022 at 4:50 PM

So after something astounding like I just wrote about in the last blog (who would expect THAT after almost eight years??), I knew there had to be some interesting astrology attached, and ... there was.

Transits to the Davison for 10/16/22: Mercury return. North Node conj Moon. Moon square Mercury. Jupiter opp Mercury. Sun and Venus are about to conj Mars but are still 2-4 degrees away. Venus opp Jupiter. Saturn return. Uranus square Satu...

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I Just Want to Cry and Cry and Cry and Cry and Cry

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on October 16, 2022 at 7:35 AM

It's Crucible Time.

When you look at our ages, when you look at the astrology, when you look at the tarot cards, everything says the same thing.

We only have but so long to make crucial changes in our lives, before old age and dementia set in. He's going to be 64. Not much time left. ...

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Realizations in Yet Another Crisis

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on October 2, 2022 at 2:05 AM

So, suddenly a crisis has come up at work. Not sure exactly why, but management has suddenly gone completely off the rails and begun attacking long-time employees in a savage and unprofessional manner.

A bunch of us are forming a union of sorts to demand change, but I expect that this will not work and most likely we will all be looking for jobs very soon. I have been drafted to write the letter from the staff, so I am working on that th...

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Can A Person's Heart Be So Broken They'll Just Never, Ever Get Over It?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on September 15, 2022 at 4:55 PM

I think I’ve just been through way, way too much in life.


I know this guy is gone. Last seen: September 6 that I know of. Since then, there have been a couple of interesting visits by a person or persons who, hiding behind a VPN, have read my late...

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Afraid to lose me and afraid to talk to me? Well, this is me.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on September 15, 2022 at 2:20 AM

I don't know if you're going to come back here, but you have twice now, and I've been told I need to leave you a message, so here it is:


(This offer will expire. Eight years is a long fucking time.)

My Ex-Affair Partner and His Wife Have Been Married Forty Years

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on September 11, 2022 at 1:20 PM

A little over seven years ago this person moved out of their house with the intent to be with me.

This didn't last, of course. (When does it ever?) After he moved out, his very emotionally distant wife, once she was done crying, went around telling everyone he was "depressed" and "crazy," yet insisted on marriage c...

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Don't Drop Anchor Here.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on August 21, 2022 at 6:35 PM

1.) Getting the astrological topic out of the way first:

So here's what happened, y'all: This past week, especially centering on the 17th, many transits favoring communication were had by all. Despite one particular card reader nattering on about how many of us were likely to hear from a runner, I had my doubts, du...

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Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on August 10, 2022 at 9:15 PM

If I hadn't seen a certain pattern of hits on here YET AGAIN (what did I say about this person disappearing for two months and then here he is again?) I would not believe a certain message I have received. But, I DO see the hits, therefore I tend to believe the message.

So, I need to leave this message:

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The Time Draws Near

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on August 6, 2022 at 8:40 PM

Might as well talk about the astrology of the next three years. There’s a big split in the transits for all three people in our triangle that starts right about now. Make no mistake, the major period of action doesn’t start until this time next year, and it goes for two years … but, if no groundwork for that gets laid (groundwork like, I’m 64 years old and this is my last chance to bail if I really want a different kind...

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Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on July 24, 2022 at 7:30 PM

There isn't anything you've done that's unforgivable.

MY NEW LIFE, book 3

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on July 17, 2022 at 8:10 PM

This idea of twin flames being soul mirrors of one another definitely has something to it.


The weather finally cleared up enough today that I could do thirty laps in the pool, and while I’m swimming around I’m thinking about an online reading I listened to, about how twin flames can’t...

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MY NEW LIFE, book 2

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on July 10, 2022 at 11:55 AM

I can’t even express how painful the past two years have been ... understanding that all thirty years prior to that were nothing but narcissism and grandiosity.

The only good thing I can notice about that is that t...

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Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on July 2, 2022 at 8:20 PM


I last saw my ex-affair partner on here on April 26th. As I told, after I posted “Let’s Just Kiss and Say Goodbye,” he came on in a flurry for a couple of nights, reading that and another one or two of my last two postings back and forth a few times—trying to figure me out, I think—and then stayed up all night April 18-19th, ...

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The Astrology of the Next Week

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on May 22, 2022 at 10:15 PM

After having this guy show up and read SO MANY BLOGS several weeks ago, and receiving so many card reading suggesting the person would show back up and want to talk, I went and looked at transits to our Davison for the weekend coming up ... because I know of something going on that weekend that would make it an opportune time.

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Why Did It Take Me Seven Years to Give Up on My Affair Partner?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on May 19, 2022 at 4:40 PM

OK, everyone can point fingers and call me an idiot. People get broken up with every day, and healthy people get over it in a matter of months, not years.


They also don’t choose to get involved with anyone married in the first place.


For me, the lure of my married guy held twin, powerful d...

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